Some days it feels like everything turns into a battle.You ask one simple thing… and suddenly there’s resistance, attitude, or a full shutdown.And if you’re honest… it makes you question yourself. “Am I being too hard?” “Am I not doing enough?” “What am I missing?”But here’s something most people won’t tell you… For children who have experienced trauma, control often feels like safety. So when they resist… it’s not always about you. And it’s not always defiance. Sometimes it’s their way of trying to feel okay in a moment that feels overwhelming to them.That doesn’t make it easy. But it does change how you see it. And when you see it differently, YOU can respond differently and so can your child.You’re not just correcting your child. You’re helping them feel safe again.And that matters more than getting everything right. So this time, before you correct, connect.
So what if today… Instead of preparing to survive it…
You prepared to lead it?
Not perfectly or flawlessly, but intentionally.
Because you’re not waking up to another day to “get through.”
You’re waking up to a life you’re being called to build.
And tomorrow…
We’re going to talk about why you were never meant to carry that weight alone.
Getting It Done (Real-Life Strategy)
Let’s keep this simple and doable and not overwhelming.
Start with 3 things, not 30! Pick your top 3 priorities for the day: • What must get done? • What would help get done? • What can wait?
Delegate with purpose (even to the little ones) • Older kids: lunches, helping younger siblings, simple chores • Younger kids: picking up toys, carrying items, “helper jobs” You’re not burdening them. You are building them.
Use what you have without shame • Community programs • School resources • Church support • Hand-me-downs Receiving help is not failure. It is wisdom.
Build a rhythm, not perfection Morning routine → After school reset → Evening wind-down Not perfect. Just consistent enough to breathe.
Give yourself grace in the middle of it. Something will go wrong today! That doesn’t mean you are wrong.
Closing Prayer
God, You see the weight she carries before the day even begins. You see the thoughts, the worries, the silent prayers she doesn’t even have words for.
Strengthen her today, not just physically, but emotionally. Remind her that she is not alone, even when it feels like it.
Give her wisdom to lead her home, peace in the chaos, and grace for herself when things don’t go as planned.
Let her feel seen. Let her feel supported. Let her know she is doing better than she thinks.
In Jesus’ name, Amen. #singlemomlife #singlemomstrong #momlifeunfiltered #single #heldtogether
The Lord gave me this years ago, but it seems so fitting now……..
Why Are We So Serious?
Why are we so serious? Everything seems ridiculous! It’s funny, you know, sometimes I dream of being a child again.
Walking barefoot in the rain – hopping from puddle to puddle.
Watching butterflies land on tiny flowers.
Riding bikes with friends – playing tag and Mother May I.
Its not fair. We think we make the rules.
If we did, would we choose to be a child again?
Running after a puppy – drawing pictures for our Mommies.
Holding hands and skipping down the road – kicking cans.
Why are we so serious? Maybe we are delirious!
Who said games are for children anyway?
Children love through unconditional eyes.
If they fall, they want to be hugged. Deep inside, under the pride, we do too.
Laughter beams within their little eyes. No place or time for lies.
I spy…to them its just a game, but now we play for gain.
What glory do we receive? Do we win? I think it’s sin.
Hide and seek was the most fun when we were caught.
But now we hide and can’t be found. We want it that way.
Why are we so serious. Maybe we’re just furious!
Who caused this anger anyway? When did it happen?
Who turned on the light and said, “Its time to grow up?”
Or, was the light turned off inside? What does grown-up mean anyway?
Why can’t we run and hop and jump? Why can’t we dance and play?
Who makes these rules anyway?
Who said stop laughing so loud, when we’re glad?
All I want is a hug – a BIG one – a big bear hug from a friend.
A hug that seems to never end.
Will you hold my hand just because we are friends and you want to be close to me? Probably not. After All we are grown-up now! Someone might be watching. Touching is not aloud. Where is the child at now?
One thing hasn’t changed – we’re still pretending to be someone we are not. Why are we so serious? Can someone please deliver us? From the pain. From the shame. From the heartache we cause ourselves.
The eye that mocks his father, and scorns obedience to his mother, the ravens of the valley will pick it out, and the young eagles will eat it. Proverbs 30:17
Some sat in darkness and in the shadow of death, being bound in affliction and in irons, Because they had rebelled against the words of God and spurned the counsel of the Most High. Therefore He bowed down their hearts with hard labor; they stumbled and fell down, and there was none to help. Psalm 107:10-12
Ouch! Recognizing a spirit of rebellion in your child can be heart wrenching, especially if it isn’t just an occasional thing, but a stronghold. Children have to be taught to honor their parents and others as well.
So who gets this task? You guessed it. We do.
My son, hear the instruction of your father, and do not forsake the law of your mother; for they will be graceful ornaments on your head, and chains about your neck. Proverbs 1:8-9
Scripture after scripture, all through the Old Testament and the New, we see children being commanded to honor and obey their parents, the rewards of doing so, and the dire consequences of those who willfully choose another way. Ephesians 6:1-3 tells of a promise made to those who obey and honor – a long life results.
Disobedience may not only bring to them pain and much trial, but also a life cut short. No parent wants this for their child.
What do we do? We model, teach, discipline, and pray.
Stormie Omartian says in her book, The Power of the Praying Parent, “when children do not honor their father or their mother, it is often the first sign that the idol’s in a child’s heart -a child of any age- are pride and selfishness. That’s why children who are not taught to obey their parents become rebellious. They say, “I want what I want, when I want it.”
“Woe to the rebellious children,” says the Lord, “Who take counsel, but not of ME, and who devise plans, but not of MY SPIRIT, that they may add sin to sin.”
Isaiah 30:1 Rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft. 1 Samuel 15:23
Our children have to learn that obedience brings them the security they long for and gives confidence, long life and peace.
Teaching children obedience becomes easier when the way is paved by prayer.
A sure way to combat a strong will that exalts itself above its parents and above God is through persistent prayer and time. Ultimately it will remain up to your child to obey the promptings of Holy Spirit.
The consequences of this are far greater than anything you can give. Rebellion has eternal consequences. According to Ephesian 6:12 we don’t battle with flesh and blood and so it is true our battle isn’t against our children. We must remember who we are and the authority given us and speak forth God’s Word over our children’s lives.
Write out a prayer and pray it over your children. The word will not return void.
Yet they were disobedient and rebelled against You and cast Your law behind their back and killed Your prophets who accused and warned them to turn to You again; and they committed great and contemptible blasphemies. Therefore You delivered them into the hand of their enemies, who distressed them. In the time of their suffering when they cried to You, You heard them from heaven, and according to Your abundant mercy You gave them deliverers, who saved them from their enemies. Nehemiah 9:26-27
Teaching children to honor is serious business. And the rewards are great!
Sometimes love looks like doing the one thing you really didn’t want to do.
Not because you feel like it or because it’s fun, but because it matters.
That one small decision? It can shift the whole atmosphere in your home.
Nothing shows love like action.
Especially when it is something you do not feel like doing.
Try This Today
Pick one thing you have been asked to do but have been avoiding.
Do it without being asked again. No eye rolls. No sighs.
Bonus: Leave a little note or text: “Done! Hope that helps today.”
Prayer God, even when I do not want to, help me do what is right. Teach me that love sometimes looks like work and let me do it with a better attitude. In Jesus Name. Amen.
Journal Your Reflection What task did you finally today? How did it feel? How did your parents respond?
Have you already decided your parents don’t understand you… or have you just stopped letting them try?
Almost every teen has said that. It’s as old as time.
But what if that’s not actually true?
What if the real issue isn’t understanding… it’s communication?
Your parents were teenagers once.
They had emotions, confusion, and pressure then and they still do. They just didn’t always have someone to explain it to them when they were young.
And sometimes… they’re waiting on you to open that door.
It doesn’t have to be a perfect conversation, just without accusation and anger and with honesty.
Because connection doesn’t grow in an atmosphere of anger or in silence.
Small mindset shifts turn into real relationship change.
James 1:19 (AMP)
“Understand this, my beloved brothers and sisters. Let everyone be quick to hear [be a careful, thoughtful listener], slow to speak [a speaker of carefully chosen words], and slow to anger [patient, reflective, forgiving].”
Especially when it feels like: 👉 You’re always the one giving 👉 They never give back 👉 And somehow your stuff is always the “shared” stuff 😅
But here’s the shift:
Love doesn’t grow when everything is fair. Love grows when you choose to give anyway.
Jesus didn’t serve because it was easy. He served because it was love.
And when you:
Share what you could keep
Help when you weren’t asked
Give without keeping score
You’re not just being “nice.”
You’re becoming strong in the kind of love that actually changes relationships.
Sharing says: 👉 “You matter more than this thing.”
Serving says: 👉 “I choose to show up for you.”
And those small choices change the atmosphere of your home more than you think.
Mark 10:45 (AMP) “For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many.” #faithathome #familylife #connectingwithyoursiblings #siblingdrama
Once I went on a field trip to the zoo with one of my children’s Pre-K class. Walking around with the students and their parents I began to think over the 18 years at that time, I taught school and all of the things that go along with being a teacher. I began thinking about college, all of the planning, all the preparing, all the parent conferences, teaching the children, the field trips, the administration, projects and the list goes on. This led to thoughts of being a foster parent and all the dealings with birth parents, court systems, psychiatrist, psychologists, doctors, case managers, visitations, hurting families, traumatized children, adoptions, speaking to new groups about foster care and what happens to the developing brain of a traumatized child. Thoughts of making posters, and pamphlets, and brochures for doing in – home tutoring and in – home respite care. Then the planning and preparing and fundraising to gain the 501(3) status and build the ministry for Under HIS Wings CC, Inc. and on to four adoptions and everything it takes to be a good parent and to do it well raising six children at the time, I now have seven, some with special needs, without a spouse. Raising children with severe behaviors and special needs, homeschooling, teaching the Word, modeling the Word, rearranging the furniture and rooms over and over to bring another child into our home. Ministering to women, building websites, more fundraising, more brochures, and flyers, more administrating and being overlooked many times, and even being a single parent for all of these years has been preparation to comfort and teach and encourage other single women to lead healthy productive lifestyles for the benefit of a better life for them and their children.
Don’t ever judge anyone whose shoes you haven’t walked in or let anyone judge you. There are certain things you will never understand from the outside. Nobody knows what they would do until they are in those shoes -how dare they judge when they don’t walk where you walk!
While contemplating all of this two parents in the group began bickering with one another. The bickering progressed into reoccurring cursing one another throughout the day. And I thought, “God I remember why I didn’t like teaching. So much of it seemed like such a great waste of time.” But then, who am I to judge them as well.
Holy Spirit quietly and said, “no it was all preparation for what is coming. Everything in my life up until now has played an important role in training and preparing me, and my family for the walking out of the vision. The process has also been the walking out of it. I have been doing the vision all these years. Whats coming is more of the same only to greater capacity. The enemy is not concerned about our past. He is afraid of our future and the multitudes of lives that will benefit by Kingdom living at and in our home.
My next goals, are ongoing, to continue to write, create comics and books to help bring love and healing to families, is a great threat to the kingdom of darkness and it is why I have been fought so very hard on it.
There will always be the dealings with those who don’t see, or believe. Tragically those crippled by disappointment tend to kill the dreams of others to keep them from the Sam disappointment. But, isn’t that why we are here? To overcome and to be a blessing to others?
And then there are those promises to help from well meaning people only to be found broken or lying dormant and they are all part of satan’s plan to thwart the great glory God has coming to Him. But his plans will be made to no avail as God will still always get the greater glory when the enemy means to harm us. Principalities work through personalities.
We will find a way, friend. There is always provision for a vision. There is always a way to meet a need. Wisdom will come to us or someone who not only hears but is willing to commit to what they say they believe.
A pig enjoys wallowing in its mess. But Sheep thrown in the same mud whole will cry and want out. But not the pig, it just keeps wallowing there.
I’d rather get out of the boat and walk three feet and sink then to never get out.
Here is my dream Lord – the one You gave me. Grab my hand.
Prevailing Faith expresses itself with works and corresponding action and is not just a passing thought. You commit to whatever you believe. Commitment validates whatever you say you believe. I am committed to walk this mission out all my days.
God never demands conduct that He doesn’t first empower us to achieve. Grace is ever present.
Bishop Dale Bronner said: “A dream is the seed of possibility planted in the soul of a human being, which calls him to pursue a unique path to the realization of his purpose.”
Father thank you for all these years of preparation and for ordering my steps. Steps take us upward and with each one we are closer to our destiny. In Jesus Name I will step it up!
Sometimes the best way to love your parents has nothing to do with talking or fixing anything. You don’t always need a conversation to make a difference.
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do for your parents is pray for them.
It doesn’t need to be out loud, for attention, or to prove anything. It doesn’t have to be a long, perfect prayer. Prayer reaches places deeper than your words ever could.
Just you and God.
Because while you’re sitting there thinking that nothing is changing…
God is already moving in ways you can’t see.
And here’s the part most people miss:
👉 Prayer changes you too.
It softens your heart. It shifts your perspective. It reminds you they are human too.
You don’t have to fix everything.
You just have to be willing to bring them to the One who can.
What if the biggest thing shaping your relationship with your sibling… isn’t what you do—but what you say? You don’t have to try very hard to tear someone down.
It can happen in a sentence. A joke. A tone. A quick reaction.
Especially at home.
Because let’s be real… it’s easy to say things to your siblings you wouldn’t say to anyone else.
“Relax.” “You’re so annoying.” “That’s dumb.”
And just like that distance starts growing where closeness was supposed to be.
God didn’t call you to just “not be mean.” He called you to speak life.
That means: ✔ Noticing the good ✔ Encouraging on purpose ✔ Choosing kindness—even when you’re frustrated
Because the way you speak today…
is shaping the relationship you’ll have years from now.
And the crazy part?
You have more influence in your home than you think.
Try this today 👇 Say ONE thing to your sibling that builds them up.
Something real that says, “I See you.”
Watch what happens.
📖 SCRIPTURE
Proverbs 18:21 (AMP) “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it and indulge it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words.”
You (insert your name) were formed from the depths of My heart, with all my wisdom you were set apart.
Intricately woven, decadently made in awesomeness of likeness you were wonderfully made.
My hand is imprinted in the cells of your skin, my breath is pulsating inside you from deep within.
You were in my thoughts from the beginning and in them there is no end. I spared no cost to call you friend.
Every part of you has intimate detail, every hair, every dimple, every freckle, every nail. Your laugh, Your personality, your smile and your cry were all spoken into existence with perfection in mind.
My heart was filled with joy as I created your face, as I imagined your talents and skills, a smile came to My face.
Your heart’s desires were given to you by Me, your hopes and dreams inspired with greatness for you to conceive.
The way you love, the way you sing, the way you walk, the way you dance are all unique. Even the tone of voice when you speak.
It is I who examines your heart and knows everything you need. I chart your path and your race will be run with the correct speed.
Your cells are wonderfully complex and you were fearfully knit together and formed with care and in kindness and love I counted each hair.
My thoughts of you are innumerable and precious to Me. They outnumber the salt in the seas. My gaze is upon you always and it never turns away.
My love for you is endless and My hopes for you are limitless.
Your spirit was given with thoughts of the lives you would bless. Every one was considered, every one was confessed.
Creativity was implanted for the work you do. Wisdom and knowledge all set in motion for you.
All I wanted in the building of you was to have a family who in return loved me too.
Why do you question who you are and why you were made? Look to me I will show you the plans beforehand outlaid.
You were a gift to My Self, and I dont make mistakes. Look again and you will see you’ve got what it takes. You were made to stand before princes and kings with confidence in the One who provides everything. Stand there knowing you are of a greater creation of Royal, and know all of heaven declares YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!
This post was inspired because I have been speaking to the Lord about why so many people are playing games and asking what folks think of them on Facebook. His response was given me in a dream this morning. What is written here. He told me that they may don’t know their worth and how very much they are loved. He said tell them I love them. Tell them they are beautiful to me and tell them I long to show them their worth. It feels good to have those we love speak highly of us, and their love cannot compare to the One Who is Love. Listen to HIS words – You are Beautiful!
